Heat oil in a saucepan, when it shimmers add the cumin seeds and dried whole red chillies
Add the the salt and the chilli flakes to the oil, then add the okra and stir deftly to coat well.
Cook uncovered on medium heat, stirring it every 5-6 minutes, the bhindi will darken, and cook through in 15-18 minutes for soft tender bhindi.
For a darker bhindi with more of a chew turn the heat up and saute a few more minutes until it's to your desired doneness. Adjust seasoning.
Notes
Tips: cooking behind uncovered or partially covered is the best way to get the 'sliminess' to cook out. Not disturbing it too much as it cooks is your best bet at ensuring that it doesn't break.